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Is Someone Sexually Harassing You? Here’s How to Tell

Dealing with sexual harassment, can be confusing and intimidating. But, you don’t have to suffer in silence. This guide will help you identify the signs of sexual harassment, and take steps to address it.

What is Sexual Harassment?

Sexual harassment, is unwelcome conduct of a sexual nature that creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment. It can take many forms, including:

• Unwanted sexual advances or requests for sexual favors
• Verbal harassment like sexual jokes, comments about someone’s body, or offensive remarks about sexual orientation/gender identity
• Physical harassment like unwanted touching, hugging, patting or assault
• Visual harassment like displaying pornographic or sexually explicit images

The key factor, is that the conduct is unwelcome and makes you uncomfortable. Even if the harasser claims it was “just a joke” or “harmless flirting”, if it makes you feel violated or unsafe, it qualifies as sexual harassment.

Signs Someone is Sexually Harassing You

Sometimes, the signs of sexual harassment are obvious – like a coworker making lewd comments or unwanted sexual advances. Other times, the behavior is more subtle but still creates a hostile environment. Here are some red flags to watch for:

Inappropriate Comments or Jokes

One telltale sign, is a coworker who constantly makes sexual innuendos, tells offensive jokes, or comments on your appearance in an inappropriate way. For example:“Wow, that skirt really shows off your assets!”
“You must work out – your body looks amazing.”
“Did you get a haircut? You look so hot today.”Even if delivered as a “compliment”, remarks focused on your sexuality or physical appearance can make you feel objectified and uncomfortable at work.

Unwanted Physical Contact

Any unwanted touching, hugging, patting or other physical contact of a sexual nature counts as harassment. This could include:

• A coworker who regularly rubs your shoulders or back without permission
• A supervisor who stands too close or “accidentally” brushes up against you
• Someone who tries to kiss, grope or assault you

You have the right, to reject any unwanted physical advances or contact, no matter how “innocent” the person claims it was.

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Requests for Sexual Favors

One of the clearest forms of harassment, is someone directly or indirectly asking you for sexual favors in exchange for workplace benefits like promotions, raises or continued employment. This is known as “quid pro quo” harassment.For example, a supervisor who implies they’ll give you a promotion if you go on a date with them, or threatens your job if you don’t comply with sexual demands.

Hostile Work Environment

Sexual harassment, doesn’t have to be directed at you specifically to create a hostile work environment. For instance:

• A workplace filled with pornographic images, explicit emails/texts or sexual graffiti
• Coworkers who regularly make crude sexual comments or gestures
• Rumors or “locker room” talk about someone’s sexual activities

If the sexual content is severe or pervasive enough to make you uncomfortable coming to work, that qualifies as a hostile environment – even if you’re not the direct target.

What to Do If You’re Being Sexually Harassed

If you recognize, these warning signs in your own workplace, don’t ignore them. Sexual harassment is illegal, and you have rights. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Tell Them to Stop

In some cases, you may be able to resolve the situation informally first. If you feel comfortable, tell the harasser directly and firmly that their behavior is unwelcome and needs to stop. For example:“The comments you make about my body make me uncomfortable. Please don’t do that anymore.”“I don’t appreciate you touching me without permission. Don’t let it happen again.”Having a witness present can also help reinforce your message.

2. Document Everything

Whether you’ve addressed it directly or not, keep detailed records of all incidents of harassment. Write down the dates, times, locations, what was said/done, and if there were any witnesses.Save any inappropriate emails, texts, notes or photos as evidence. This documentation will be crucial if you decide to file a formal complaint.

3. Check Your Company’s Harassment Policy

Most companies are required to have procedures for reporting and investigating sexual harassment claims. Review your employee handbook or talk to HR about the proper channels for filing a complaint.When making a report, be as specific as possible about the harassing behavior, who was involved, and how it impacted your ability to do your job. Provide copies of any documentation you’ve collected.

4. Talk to a Lawyer

If your employer fails to take your complaint seriously or the harassment continues, you may want to consult an employment lawyer. They can advise you of your legal rights and options for taking further action.An attorney can help you file a formal charge with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) or pursue a sexual harassment lawsuit against your employer. Don’t wait too long, as there are strict time limits for taking legal action.

5. Explore Other Job Options

Sadly, some employers still don’t take sexual harassment seriously or fail to properly address it. If the situation shows no signs of improving, you may decide it’s best to start looking for a new job.No one should have to endure a hostile work environment. Removing yourself from that toxic situation could be the healthiest choice – both mentally and physically.

You Deserve to Feel Safe at Work

Sexual harassment, can take an enormous emotional toll and make it difficult to be productive or feel comfortable in your workplace. But you don’t have to suffer in silence.If you recognize the warning signs of sexual harassment happening to you or someone else, speak up. Follow your company’s reporting procedures, document everything, and if needed, seek legal help.