Common Law Marriage New York

Common Law Marriage New York

Thanks for visiting Spodek Law Group – managed by Todd Spodek, a second-generation law firm with over 40 years of combined experience in family law and matrimonial matters throughout New York. When couples ask whether their long-term relationship qualifies as common law marriage in New York, the answer is simple: **No**. New York abolished common law marriage in 1933. You can live together for fifty years, file joint tax returns, call each other husband and wife, raise children, buy property together – none of that creates a legal marriage in New York without a marriage license and formal ceremony. This matters enormously when relationships end or partners die, because without legal marriage, you have *no* spousal rights to property division, spousal support, or inheritance.

But there’s an exception that creates significant litigation – New York recognizes common law marriages validly formed in other states. If you lived in Texas, Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Utah, or the District of Columbia and met that state’s requirements for common law marriage, New York will recognize it under the Full Faith and Credit Clause. The problem? Proving you formed a valid common law marriage under another state’s law often requires contested litigation, especially when one partner claims the marriage existed and the other denies it, or when the relationship doesn’t fit neatly within the other state’s requirements.

What New York’s Prohibition Actually Means

New York eliminated common law marriage in 1933, and the prohibition is absolute. No marriage license and formal ceremony? Not married. Period. Consider what this means:

  • **Property division:** House in one person’s name? That person keeps it – even if the other partner paid mortgage for twenty years.
  • **Spousal support:** No marriage, no maintenance obligation. Income disparities don’t matter. Career sacrifices don’t matter.
  • **Inheritance:** When an unmarried partner dies without a will, the surviving partner inherits nothing. Children inherit. Parents inherit. Siblings inherit. Your partner of decades? Zero.
  • **Benefits:** Health insurance, pension survivor benefits, Social Security – all require legal marriage.

At Spodek Law Group – we handle cases where couples mistakenly believed their long-term relationship created spousal rights. They split after fifteen years, one partner earned significantly more, the other gave up career to raise children. In a divorce, that triggers maintenance and equitable distribution. Without legal marriage? The lower-earning partner leaves with nothing.

The Other-State Exception Creates Litigation

New York will recognize a common law marriage if it was validly formed in another state that permits such marriages. This sounds straightforward – if you were common law married in Texas before moving to New York, your marriage is valid here. But “validly formed” requires meeting the specific legal requirements of the state where the marriage allegedly arose, and those requirements vary significantly.

States that still recognize common law marriage generally require:

  • **Present intent to be married** – both parties must currently agree they’re married, not just planning future marriage. Past intent doesn’t count; you can’t retroactively decide a prior relationship was a marriage.
  • **Cohabitation** – living together as spouses. Occasional overnight visits don’t qualify; the relationship must involve shared residence.
  • **Public representation as married** – telling friends, family, employers, government agencies that you’re married. Filing joint tax returns, using the same last name, introducing each other as spouse, listing “married” on official documents.

When couples separate or one partner dies, disputes arise about whether these elements existed. One partner claims they formed a common law marriage in Colorado during the two years they lived there before moving to New York. The other partner denies ever agreeing to be married, argues they never represented themselves as married publicly, claims the relationship was always understood as non-marital. Now you’re litigating in New York courts whether a common law marriage existed in Colorado – requiring testimony, evidence of how you introduced each other, tax return filings, lease agreements, witness statements from people who knew you during the Colorado period.

Strategic Claims of Out-of-State Common Law Marriage

The other-state exception invites strategic fraud. When unmarried couples break up in New York, the economically disadvantaged partner has incentive to claim they formed a common law marriage during a brief period living together in another state. “We spent six months in Texas in 2018 – that created a common law marriage, so you owe me spousal support and half the property.” The other partner denies it, but now they’re defending against claims that require disproving intent, cohabitation, and public representation from years ago.

These cases turn on credibility, witness testimony, and circumstantial evidence. Did you file taxes as married or single? Did you introduce each other as spouses at social events? Did official documents list you as married? When the evidence is ambiguous, litigation becomes expensive and unpredictable. Todd Spodek’s defense of Anna Delvey demonstrated what vigorous advocacy looks like when prosecutors construct narratives based on selective evidence. Common law marriage disputes work similarly – one party constructs a narrative (“we were married”), the other must deconstruct it with evidence showing the relationship never met legal requirements.

Property Consequences When Relationships End

Without legal marriage, property stays with whoever holds title. House solely in your partner’s name – even if you contributed to down payment, mortgage, renovations? You have no ownership claim absent expensive litigation proving constructive trust or unjust enrichment. Bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment portfolios – all determined by whose name appears on title. When married couples divorce, New York divides marital property based on fairness, considering contributions and sacrifices. When unmarried couples separate, no such protection. You keep what’s titled in your name. Your partner keeps what’s in theirs.

Consider: One partner works while the other attends medical school. After graduation, the doctor earns substantial income. They buy a house – doctor’s name only because better credit. Ten years later they split. The non-doctor sacrificed career advancement, enabled the doctor’s success. In a divorce, those contributions would be valued. Without legal marriage? The non-doctor leaves with nothing.

What Happens When an Unmarried Partner Dies

For married spouses, the surviving spouse inherits substantially (often $50,000 plus half if there are children, entire estate if no children). For unmarried partners? *Nothing*. The estate passes to children, parents, siblings, distant relatives. Your partner of twenty years has no inheritance rights. Families of the deceased can exclude the surviving partner entirely – from the home they shared, from accounts, from possessions. We’ve represented surviving partners who discovered their longtime partner’s estranged adult children inherited everything and immediately evicted them from the home they’d shared for decades. Wills solve this – but only if executed properly and not successfully challenged. Disinherited family members often contest wills leaving assets to unmarried partners, claiming undue influence.

Alternatives That Don’t Provide Full Protection

Couples who choose not to marry can use legal tools to approximate some spousal rights, but none provide comprehensive protection equivalent to marriage:

  • **Cohabitation agreements:** Contracts specifying property division, financial support, and obligations if the relationship ends. Enforceable like any contract, but limited to what the parties explicitly agreed to. Unlike divorce law, which imposes equitable distribution and maintenance based on statutory factors, cohabitation agreements only bind to their written terms.
  • **Domestic partnerships:** New York City and some localities offer domestic partnership registration, providing limited rights like hospital visitation and health insurance coverage. But domestic partnerships don’t create property division rights, spousal support obligations, or inheritance rights equivalent to marriage.
  • **Joint ownership:** Titling property jointly creates co-ownership, but only for that specific asset. It doesn’t provide rights to property titled individually, and it doesn’t create support obligations.
  • **Wills, powers of attorney, healthcare proxies:** These documents can grant decision-making authority and direct inheritance, but they don’t create the automatic legal rights marriage provides, and they’re vulnerable to challenge.

These alternatives require proactive legal planning – most unmarried couples don’t execute them. By contrast, marriage automatically creates comprehensive legal rights without requiring separate documentation for each asset or decision type. When couples avoid marriage for personal or philosophical reasons but want legal protections, they need experienced family law counsel to draft enforceable agreements covering property, support, medical decisions, inheritance, and other rights married couples receive automatically. We’re available 24/7. Call us.